Tips for coming out

Telling people about your sexuality can be an extremely daunting task, especially if you’re unsure of how people will react. Below are a few tips which may help to ease the anxiety of coming out, and make the process as smooth as possible.

  • Do it when you’re ready – you shouldn’t feel pressured into coming out. Make sure you’re confident in yourself and who you are before you decide to come out to others.
  • Don’t feel pressured to use a particular label – there are a huge range of labels people use to describe their sexuality, but if you feel as though none of them quite fit you, don’t feel as though you have to use them.
  • Start with someone you trust – you don’t need to come out to everyone at once. The first person you come out to should be someone you trust, because they’re the most likely to support you when you decide to come out to others
  • Consider seeking out LGBTQI+ groups – while this isn’t necessary, it can be helpful to seek out social groups of people who have been through similar situations to you. They can provide tips and support for you in your journey
  • Change your perspective – coming out can be incredibly nerve-racking, but you can reframe your anxiety into excitement. It can be stressful, but it can also be extremely freeing once you’re ready to do it
  • Give people time – for some people, you coming out may be completely unexpected, and they may have adverse reactions. It’s important to give people time to process the information and to stay calm; lashing out at someone may only push them away
  • Consider the timing – ensuring you’re in a positive headspace will help you to feel confident when you come out, and help you to stay calm.
  • Remember that you don’t need other people’s approval or permission to be who you know yourself to be

Coming out can be an anxiety-provoking experience, but these tips will help to make the process as smooth as possible. However, if you would like to talk to one of our lovely psychologists about any concerns you may have, please do not hesitate to contact us at 3488 0483 or by email at admin@baypsych.com.au.

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